Everyone deserves to be in a safe and healthy relationship. Do you know if your relationship is healthy? Answer yes or no to the following questions to find out. Make sure to check the boxes to record your responses. At the end, you’ll find out how to score your answers.
Signs of a Healthy Relationship
- Fair expectations of each other
- Freedom to spend time with friends and family
- Sharing in decision making
- Taking responsibility for your own choices
- Feeling safe with your partner
- Mutual respect for each other
- Accepted for who you are, and not expected to change
- Feeling support by your partner in your endearvors
- Open communication
- Able to voice your thoughts, feelings and opinions without fear
Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship
- Feeling unsafe with your partner
- Controlling behavior
- Unfounded jealousy
- Volatile temper
- Constant criticisms
- Giving orders
- Sudden changes in mood
- Blaming others
- Isolating from friends and family
- Pushing, shoving, spitting, pinching, slapping, hitting, kicking or grabbing
- Damaging personal property
- Forcing sexual acts
Relationships that are not healthy are based on power and control, not equality and respect. In the early stages of an abusive relationship, you may not think the unhealthy behaviors are a big deal. However, possessiveness, insults, jealous accusations, yelling, humiliation, pulling hair, pushing or other abusive behaviors, are — at their root — exertions of power and control. Remember that abuse is always a choice and you deserve to be respected. There is no excuse for abuse of any kind.
Even though you cannot change your partner, you can make changes in your own life to stay safe. Consider leaving your partner before the abuse gets worse. Whether you decide to leave or stay, make sure to use our safety planning tips to stay safe. Remember, you have many options — including obtaining a domestic violence restraining order, which TESSA advocates can help with at the El Paso County Courthouse, M-F: 7:30am-9:30am. Laws vary from state to state so chat with a TESSA advocate to learn more about Colorado Laws.
If you are in crisis please call our 24/7 Safeline at 719-633-3819.
Information provided by https://www.loveisrespect.org