It's Not Okay

But it is okay to ask for help

Why A Campaign?

“Everyone tends to focus on the victims,” said TESSA Executive Director SherryLynn Boyles. “People want to know ‘why don’t they leave?’ when we need to be asking ‘how can we stop the violence from ever happening?” Boyles continued. “We are starting with a campaign that shifts that focus and says it’s never okay for someone to be abusive.”

Call for help: 855-978-2638
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What is Relationship Violence?

"Relationship violence… is a pattern of behaviors used by one partner to maintain power and control over another partner in an intimate relationship… Relationship violence includes behaviors that physically harm, arouse fear, prevent a partner from doing what they wish or force them to behave in ways they do not want. It includes the use of physical and sexual violence, threats and intimidation, emotional abuse and economic deprivation.”


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It's Not Okay to humiliate your wife at a party as a way to control her

It’s Not Okay to punch a hole in the wall to show your wife who’s boss

It's Okay to Ask for Help

Call for help at: 855-978-2638 for information about services that can help you if you are experiencing or witnessing violence, or if you’re using violence and want to change your own behavior. It is okay to ask for help

Ask for HelpCycle of Violence

Take Action

Call for help if you are using abusive behaviors:

If you are being abused call our Safeline at:

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It's Okay to Ask for Help

Everyone deserves to be in a safe and healthy relationship. Do you know if your relationship is healthy? Take the Healthy Quiz below to find out!

Relationship QuizPower and Control Wheel

Myths vs. Facts

We are breaking down those common relationship myths and assumptions throughout this week and giving the real facts. What are some myths you have heard? Discuss with us on social media

Relationship Myths

What Bystanders Can Do

The definition of a bystander is “someone who is present at an event or incident but does not take part”. Often, when people talk about bystanders they are referring to the Bystander Effect, which is the decreased likelihood that someone will intervene or help in an emergency situation if there are other people present. If you see relationship violence happening in your community, it’s not okay to stand by and remain a passive bystander, even if there are other people around.

The Bystander Effect

The Impact on Children

In the U.S. alone, Childhood Domestic Violence impacts over 15 million children and 40 million adults who were these children.

What is the Impact on Children?

Change is possible

In the U.S. alone, Childhood Domestic Violence impacts over 15 million children and 40 million adults who were these children.

It's Your Choice

Come back each week to find out more you can do

Our Allies

We would like to thank our Allies in the fight for a world free of relationship and sexual violence.

Committee Members

We would like to thank the many community members who were a part of the No Excuse for Abuse Task Force for the past year and helped make this campaign a reality.

Anne Markley- Board President
Barb Winter- ENT

Chris Phillips - Rocky Mountain Vibes
Christine O'Brien - HSD2
Cindy Aubrey - Pikes Peak United Way
C.J. Meigs-Moore
Dan May- 4th District Attorney's Office

Heather Graves- Centura Health
Jacque Franklin- FCUCC
Krista Dias- Chapel of our Saviour
Lauren Kupfner - ANB Bank
Liz Haltizwanger - KKTV
Michael Sullivan - City of Colorado Springs
Mina Liebert- El Paso County

Ron Fitch - UC Health
Tara Loo- Board Member
Terri Carver- State Representative
TESSA Staff Members